MIRROR METHOD OF WORKING WITH DOGMAS
Some dogmas seem obviously meaningless and the blind assurance that they are righteous, can, nonetheless, remain. If a girl considered herself to be ugly for a long time, even when she changed her mind as a result of the fact that the boys began to fall in love with her, and also as a result of a sober assessment of her appearance, the blind assurance can still remain for a long time causing an inappropriate and unexpected sense of self-inferiority.
If a person, under the influence of arguments, agreed that the existence of a certain entity indicated by three letters “g o d” is not confirmed by anything, then for a long time there may remain a blind assurance in him causing specific anxiety from the coming hell and other kinds of sadistic punishments as described in detail in the “sacred” texts.
It is necessary to be conscious of this and, if desired, continue to weaken own blind assurances.
As one of the ways to achieve this goal, I propose the “mirror method”. This is very easy. Suppose I formulated the dogma: “God exists”. Now I formulate the statement opposite to it in the sense: “There is no god”. This statement can be designated as “anti-dogma”. Is there any way to prove one of these phrases? No. They are completely equal because you simply do not have an idea of what these three letters stand for. That is, you can say anything with the word “god” and there is not the slightest way to substantiate or even understand any of these statements – simply because of the fact that it is unclear what is being referred. Hence, it is clear that any of these statements is meaningless.
This approach can be used including to such dogmas that operate with seemingly understandable words like “good” and “bad”. For example: “masturbating is bad”. You form an anti-dogma: “masturbating is good”. How to prove this or that statement? In no way, and for the same reason the words “bad” and “good” do not, in fact, make any sense, except for expressing a personal negative or positive attitude. Refusing both mirror statements due to the impossibility to prove any of them, you formulate something completely different, understandable, for example: “it is nice to masturbate and I will do it”.
The same applies to the words “must” and “must not” because these words are also just labels that everyone puts where they want. Try to substitute something that makes sense for the word “must”, for example: “it is reasonable” and the phrase “one must get out of bed immediately after awakening” turns into “it is reasonable to get out of bed immediately after awakening”, it is quite another matter! It is quite different because the questions are immediately raised – “what is this reason”, “by whom it is set”, “do I need this reason”, “why is this action considered reasonable to achieve this goal”, etc.
The word “must” can also be changed to “efficient” and all the same questions arise: “how do we know that it is efficient”, “efficient for achieving what goal”, “who set this goal”, etc.
As a result, the management of one’s life arises on the basis of common sense, JW, understanding of one’s needs.
Sometimes the release of dogma occurs spontaneously as a result of the life experience accumulation. You can live and communicate with your relatives for thirty years because “that’s how you do it”, “it’s customary”, and not with those with whom you really want it. For thirty years you can greet neighbours, keep talking about weather and work because “it’s embarrassing to refuse”. And at some point the poisoning of this lie, of the eternal fear of negative attitude towards oneself becomes so obvious, the crisis is passing its peak, so that it will be enough just to catch a glimpse of the anti-dogma and the abscess will break through with clarity: “You can live in a different way! You don’t have to force yourself to communicate with those whom you don’t like to communicate with!” The avalanche rushes down.
How often do words – meaningless or simply vague, understood by each in its own way – occur in our speech? Too often. “Eternity”, “decency”, “good”, “morally”, “cosmic order”, “justice”, “god”, “conscience” are closely intermixed with words denoting completely concrete perceptions, prohibitions and motivations. For example, “if I have a conscience, I could not refuse this person”. What is “conscience” is not clear to anyone and what is “cannot refuse” is very clear, and as a result we see a person who is engaged in self-abuse, destruction of his life richness, his JW suppression because of meaningless dogmatic constructions taken on faith.
What a huge number of everyday dogmas affect our life destroying the pleasure from it step by step? “Linens in the closet should be clean”, “it is forbidden to eat on the floor”, “we have to get up early in the morning and do not lazy about in bed late”, “it is definitely needed to work and earn more money”, “it is necessary to respect the elders”, “need to save money”, “it is necessary to take care of the things”, “it is needed to have a clear goal in life and pursue it”, “it is necessary to complete any begun business”, “I should call my mother”, “I should eat the soup first and then the main course”, “I should be a lawyer”, “I should not sit around”, “I have to talk”, “it is time to have kids”, “it is time to get married”, and so on and so forth – dozens, hundreds, or even thousands of different regulations severely restricting our life by lack of freedom.
Behind all these regulations and rules the main thing is lost – the pleasure of life. A person, in fact, he for all his life dreams “to live for himself” someday but it never happens in itself. Changes, if they occur in such person’s life, do not alter anything in this joylessness and do not cause anticipation because they are not caused by JW but by mechanical wishes, that is, motivated by some or other dogmas. In fact, a person moves from cell to cell, replacing one way of life, unpleasant and maybe even painful, to another one, the same. We can fully apply the advice to such people: “do whatever you want, you will regret it all the same”.
To get out of this vicious circle you will have to fight, first of all, with ourselves, with our dogmas.
The dogmas force a person to spin constantly in the wheel of far-fetched deeds and duties, and there comes a point when free time becomes already burdensome because it means a painful encounter with the problem of “what to do”, “why my life is so empty”, so a spasmodic search for something you can “kill time” with. And if a person remains out of activity for a while, then he feels how the world around him rushes somewhere, he feels as if he is on the sidelines, he jumps to the first saddle and comes after. So they rush, and the dust they have raised will now be whipped out and then settle.